Christina's Blog

Why is there something instead of nothing?

Where is creativity, wonder, and questioning in the world today? Is it hiding in the woods under a rock? Is it locked away in books, or movies? Has it all been discovered therefore, no further need to expand or search? Is it out of reach for the average person? Or are we drowning in distraction? When was the last time you didn’t google something for the answer? When was the last time you shared your day in a conversation vs on a screen? When was the last time you left your phone at home on purpose? When was the last time you had a deep meaningful conversation with people you disagreed with? Don’t let the world decide your distraction.

Comfort is cheap. Truth is expensive. Every story you accept without question, every illusion you cling to, costs you clarity, freedom, and vision. The deeper you look, the more it burns and that burn is the only spark that can awaken you.

Everyone claims to be a leader. Titles, awards, positions they all shout “I lead.” But claiming it doesn’t make it real. Leadership is earned, lived, and proven in impact.

The truth: any leadership can be masked. Someone can look influential or celebrated while leaving people weaker, dependent, or misdirected. Recognition is not leadership. Visibility is not leadership. Legacy is.

The Masked Leader

Masked leadership can seem convincing. It can even feel like guidance. But it often harms both the leader and those they influence:
• Demands loyalty without earning trust.
• Takes credit for others’ growth.
• Uses control, fear, manipulation, or incentives, dressed as guidance.
• Punishes independence, curiosity, or questions.
• Measures success by compliance, not transformation.

The result: stagnation, burnout, and fragile teams. Masked leadership is easy to assume, especially when someone is visible or celebrated.

The Real Leader

Real leadership shows in what it leaves behind, not what it claims or controls:

• Growth over compliance: People thrive whether the leader is present or not.
• Truth over comfort: Hard truths are spoken, even when inconvenient.
• Sacrifice over ego: Long-term growth of people and mission comes first.
• Celebration over control: When someone outgrows them, they cheer.
• Legacy over authority: Influence is measured by impact, not position or recognition.

This is leadership that multiplies, survives, and matters.

The Legacy Question

Recognition, titles, awards, positions — all fade.

Ask:
• Did I grow people, or just myself?
• Did I create something that outlives me, or something that dies with me?
• Are the people I influence stronger, wiser, freer — or just trained to obey?
• Am I leaving dust, or fire?

Real leadership is measured by people transformed, whether they stay, whether they go, whether anyone notices or not.

Hard Truth

If people only succeed when you approve it, you’re managing, not leading. If you fear them outgrowing you, you’re a placeholder. Leadership is not what you hold. Leadership is what you leave behind in the people you empower and how they serve their communities and neighbors.

Most of what we accept as normal is stitched together by stories we never asked to be part of. What if the choices you believed were yours were actually designed for someone else’s benefit? The answers you chase may not exist where you’re looking, and the truth you fear might already be waiting for you quietly, in plain sight. Notice the discomfort. It’s not a warning; it’s the first sign that seeing clearly is possible.

We are starving to death in silence, and they call it progress. Screens hum, faces blur, words pass without weight. The web that once bound us empathy, struggle, grief, joy, love has unraveled, thread by thread. This is not accident; a population cut off from one another is easier to manage.

A life without reflection is already half-dead. The soul fractures when unseen, the body weakens when untouched, illness, despair, and decay are the toll of a society that severs its own ties and sells you distraction in their place.

But even now, resistance is possible. To look another in the eye, to speak from the marrow, to touch without fear, this is rebellion. To notice is to reweave the fabric. To recognize is to defy the silence. Most will not. the question is: will you?

Time, is it the turning of the earth, or the turning of the soul? We call it 24 hours, yet it slips away in 23 and 56. We measure it in clocks and calendars, yet it reveals itself in a single glance, a single word, a single breath. Why does one man drown in too little while another walks unhurried through abundance? Perhaps time is not kept, but revealed, not owned but borrowed. For those who chase it, it flees: for those that honor it, it unfolds. Tell me then: is time passing through us, or are we passing through time?

What does stewardship mean, and where would we apply it? Stewardship is an act of trust, intentionally caring for what has been entrusted to you. It extends to all areas of life, resources, time, attention, and relationships. It is not ownership, but responsibility. True stewardship creates balance: it adds margin, sets boundaries, and provides freedom within discipline. It invites refection: how am I honoring what has been entrusted, and does my care fulfill its purpose?

Some practical applications

1. Finance/resources: A zero based budget, utilizing the never 100% rule, donating time, money, or expertise. Investing or saving that align with your values.
2. Space/environment: Keeping your space organized and uncluttered. Reuse items and or recycle. Create space that encourages creativity, productivity, and peace.
3. Relationships: Be truly present, and practice active listening. Set healthy boundaries. Invest in support, or a mentorship.
4. Time: Track your time over the next week and identify your leaks. Schedule priorities first, set boundaries with your distractions, phones, social media, excessive meetings, or endless emails.
5. Health: Align activities with your natural rhythms. Prioritize sleep, nutrition, and gentle movement. Notice what drains you and what gives you life, adjust accordingly.
6. Personal growth: Self refection regularly. Utilize tools like journaling, mediation or intentional reflective pauses. Invest in learning, and seek feedback. Audit your habits, what serves growth and what does not?
7. Spiritual: Sit in stillness, observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Practice gratitude. Identify your natural gifts and share them with others.

1. What if the sun never leaves only your clouds move?
2. Could the barriers you feel be the very thing you are meant to soften?
3. If love expands, does it point to truth, or do you call it something else?
4. How often does stillness reveal more than striving ever could?
5. What if fear is just a shadow hiding what is already here?
6. Can truth be found, or only recognized when perception lets go?
7. Are the answers you seek outside, or only waiting within?
8. Could the storms you resist be the very teachers you need?
9. When your reflection shows resistance, what is it really hiding?
10. Is clarity the destination, or the act of letting go of illusion?
11. What would you see if judgment no longer guided your eyes?
12. Are contradictions obstacles, or clues pointing to a larger whole?
13. If pain shapes you, is it a curse, or the map to understanding?
14. When you stop controlling, what opens that was always here?

What are patterns, and where do we find them? They are recurring behaviors and arrangements. They are seen in Art and on clothing. They are seen in science and mathematics. They can be evaluated in history and nature. One can see them in their habits and relational cycles. Notable: in thinking loops and emotional triggers. They can be seen in marketing and consumer behavior. Some are lovely, like the spirals in a seashell. Some need continuous work, like our thoughts. Wherever you are, look for patterns, some of which you have control over. And if you don’t like them, interrupt them and change it to something you do like.